저는 십대이고 제 친구들은 모두 데이트를 하고 있습니다. 부모님은 내가 18세가 될 때까지 데이트를 허락하지 않을 것입니다. 분명히 저는 제가 아는 사람들이 데이트하기 적합한 나이가 몇 살인지 알고 있기 때문에 데이트를 하고 싶지 않습니다.
답변
얘야,
저도 십대지만 18세입니다. 데이트하기에 완벽한 나이는 없다고 생각하지만 십대에는 우리가 감정을 다룰 만큼 충분히 성숙하지 않다는 것을 이해해야 합니다. 그리고 이 십대 시절에는 공부에 대한 압박감이 많습니다. 그리고 데이트가 잘못되면 우리는 자기 의심, 죄책감, 불안을 느끼기 시작합니다. 그래서 기본적으로 우리의 정신 건강에 해를 끼칩니다. 하지만 이런 상황을 감당할 만큼 성숙하고 공부와 데이트 사이에서 균형을 이룬다면 누군가와 데이트할 수 있습니다. 그러나 항상 기억하고 먼저 연구하고 자신을 사랑하십시오. 좋은 하루 되세요 😊
당신의 소원
When you’re done highschool, you’ll feel a sense of confidence that you’re done a part of your life right by handling it responsibly in terms of obligations to your family. You also learn a thing or two about delayed gratification because while your friends are so busy with teenage curiosity, you had to stand your ground as a your responsibilities still had to be handled. You had to attend classes, pass tests, have interactions with your friend and also take care of submitting applications for university. You had to watch over your grade point average and also make sure everything is submitted on time and you’re on track. Once you’ve done a fair share of diligence, you’ll begin to realize there will be a trust you’ve gained with your parents and with yourself. This trust is because you established it with ideals, principles, goal setting and diligent approach.
Take all this into your years past the teen phase, you’ll be discerning right people to connect with and you’ll also have an idea what a date is and you’ll also have a wing man who protects you from making foolish date choices. All this as you enter your early twenty’s gives you confidence that looking at the opposite gender, you’ll learn how they communicate, how they relate with their friends, what their target is personally in their life. Like minded people will try to get to know each other one way or the other- so while you’re learning and have your own life going forward, you’ll be recognizing that people will be friendly with you and they might call you to check if you’re free. They might even suggest to you if you’re open past an exam- these are the times where leisure and dating will play a role and it’s usually while you’ve already established a direction in your life that’s going smoothly forward and this dating thing won’t phase that- so early twenty’s is what I’d suggest.
Soon after, you’ll learn the importance of guarding your heart with all diligence because issues of life come from there. Your heart will be priority too at that stage.