저는 16세의 이성애자 남성이지만, 기억할 수 있는 한 오랫동안 여성이 되고 싶었습니다. 성별을 변경해야 합니까? 그렇다면 언제 변경해야 합니까? 개인적으로 여성복을 입는 것도 좋아해요.

Answer 1

Some guys wearing girls clothes just like to wear the clothes and dont want to change their gender. But in changing your gender you wont feel the same way now as you will after you change gender, you will feel like a girl and a girl will not get as excited about wearing the clothes as you do now. If you just like the clothes the girls wear then try that for awhile, go out with your girls clothes on and get used to that too, b/c you will have to get used to doing that as well if your going to be a girl forever too. As far as when should you do it, it depends on your financial lifestyle, can you afford all the cost of transitioning or will you have to save up a lot to be able to do it. Its not cheap to change gender at all. You may have to wait till you get a good job and are away from home so you can change with out your parents paying the bill, or maybe they wont pay any of it.

Answer 2

This is not an easy decision.

Part of me wants to say yeah, go for it. I had gender dysphoria of a different kind and didn’t, and I think now that was a mistake. How else can I explain the feeling of envy when, at 64, I read about kids in high school who are on hormone blockers and changing their gender? So I’m rooting for you.

But realistically, gender reassignment is a huge step with serious costs and there are a lot of questions you have to ask yourself besides the obvious one of whether you’d rather be a girl.

• Will your parents, schoolmates, and community be accepting? If you live in a tolerant, educated community, it’s a lot easier. If you live in some ignorant backwoods place where the churches say God Hates Fags, you’d damn well better wait until you’re 18 and can move to civilization.
• Will you be able to get employment?
• Will you be a convincing woman after you’ve taken the hormones and had surgery? These will change your appearance and taken you can even make you stunningly beautiful, but as painful as it is, if you’re built like a football player, you won’t pass and you shouldn’t do this because you’ll look like a man in drag and face discrimination every moment of your life.
• Do you have the financial resources to transition? Hormones, cosmetic surgery, and SRS are expensive. You don’t *have* to have SRS and all the surgery right away, if you go on hormones and have your beard removed (if you’ve grown one yet) you can pass and live as a shemale until you can afford SRS, but you do have to have some resources.
• Are you familiar with the social downsides of being a woman in our society, from lower wages to vulnerability to rape and sexual harassment? Even as teens, we guys are used to being cock of the walk. As one person who transitioned put it, it was a shock to discover that she had to fear men.
• Are your reasons primarily sexual, as in crossdressing for a sexual kick? Because once you’re on hormones, you’ll have a girl’s sexuality, not a boys, and it isn’t the impelling/compelling male sex drive we’re used to. One way of answering this question is to ask whether it’s important for you to be a girl when you aren’t horny.

Because these questions are so weighty, and because you need therapeutic letters to proceed, I would consult a therapist as the first step. If they think you’re a good candidate, you can start by going on hormone blockers and estrogen. It’s important to do this as soon as possible because the sooner you do it, the more convincing the results will be, your body is still usually slim as a teen and you haven’t reached your full height so you want to catch it now before you get too big, not to mention that your beard will come in and require more painful electrolysis.

It’s a big step and I hope you’ll be able to do it. Seeing a specialist in gender disorders is what will help you decide if it’s the right choice for you and get things started if it is.