I'm 14 and my mom screams at me 90% of the time and swears at me and when we do talk she always is distant what do I do?

Answer 1

I know your very young maybe your mom is under alot of pressure from work,home or other comments she means well it could just be the change of life hormonal effects is she on mediation that dont mean to scream at you i bet its just life has got duff and its hard on big people tom growing older. I bet she loves you and doesnt mean it there could be more to it that she doesnt want to worry you with it will get better in time.

Answer 2

Sim, pare de ter quinze anos. É muito incomum que não haja atrito entre um adolescente e um pai. Você provavelmente mudou desde que era criança e pode ter um desejo maior de independência. Sua mãe provavelmente está tendo dificuldade em se adaptar a isso e, além disso, você quase certamente está hormonal e mal-humorado. Além disso, você provavelmente acha que sabe mais do que sabe em basicamente qualquer situação. Você só precisa esperar essa fase da sua vida, pois é natural e quase todo mundo passa por isso.

That said, you should certainly make an increased conscious effort to show your respect for her, to thank her for things that you may normally not, and even, yes, even to express your love for her. If she associates you with positivity and gratitude, the sheer amount of conflict may be reduced. Sadly, odds are that you will not be able to create a very strong association, as you have very little self control at fifteen.

I’m well aware how condescending this may come across, but I am guilty of the same faults, myself being fifteen years old . Good luck.

Okay, so I read some of the answers here and some of these people have gone a bit of a different route. I’m aware that I may have destroyed my credibility by revealing my age, but I feel I have to address this. I don’t know the exact family situation you are in, but the odds are very high that you are contributing more to the problem than it seems. That said, of course I’m aware that some of her behavior is likely to be irrational. Never defend your actions. Instead, listen patiently and tell her calmly that you will try to rectify your offending behavior. If she keeps yelling, then maybe it’s just on her, but I still think it is a valid point that she may have an overall sense of disrespect from you that is less linked to the specific situation but moreover the tendencies I noted previously are common in fifteen year olds.