Tenho 17 anos e faço 18 em um mês e meus pais desaprovam meu namorado de 26 anos. O que devo fazer?
Respostas
Você deveria terminar com ele, o cérebro dele vai ser um cérebro adulto totalmente desenvolvido em um ano ou 2, o seu não vai ser totalmente desenvolvido por mais 7 ou 8. Isso é um intervalo de 6 anos, em termos de psicologia do desenvolvimento. Há um milhão e um de razões pelas quais os relacionamentos entre jovens e adultos não funcionam. Eu sei que você se sente crescido agora, mas, espere alguns anos e olhe para trás agora, e o fato de que você não está totalmente crescido ainda se tornará uma verdade inegável.
N the fact that the actual age gap is 10 years is creepy as fuck. Guys who go out with girls that young when they're that old are almost always majorly, psychologically fucked in the head. He'll probably still be going after girls your age 12 years from now, n even if he doesn't break up with you in 4 years when you aren't “young” anymore, (for lack of a better term.) which is highly fucking unlikely, as guys that old who date girls your age typically are only attracted to girls your age. He'll probably just cheat on you with younger girls, and he'll probably stop having sex with you n abandon the relationship, emotionally.
In a couple years, you're most likely gonna realize you're young,n making a bad mistake from a place of misinformation and inexperience. N then you'll be all traumatized n shit, when you find out that you too, are a victim sexual grooming, the act of manipulating a minor into sex acts they wouldn't concent to if they were informed. N even if the guy isn't a fucking creep-ball, n he's really in love with YOU, n attracted to YOU, n not just most girls your age, which is a big fucking if, then I refer you back to my first point, the one that kept you reading this long, relationships between adults n young adults are likely doomed to fail.
Conforme as pessoas crescem, seus interesses mudam, merda. Há um milhão de razões, provavelmente mais, porque ficar com ele só vai levar a mais desgostos no futuro. Se não for você, será ele. Quanto mais tempo vocês dois estiverem juntos, mais difícil será aceitar que vocês deveriam terminar, quando você chegar à conclusão de que realmente deveria.
I know being single is hard, n that thinking of yourself without him is upsetting. But, seriously, you really gotta think about where your life is at n what you're doing right now n shit. The first month after breaking up is always terrible, it's hard to sleep n all you want is to feel wanted n loved, but, It gets easier over time. After 3 months, it's still quite bad but not so much. N again at 6 n 9 months. After a year or 2, you will probably come to the realization that being single is much better than being in a relationship that isn't “right” or “the one” or whatever, n you'll definitely realize that it beats the hell out of a relationship that has like, a <1% of ending happily.
If you haven't decided that I sound just like your parents right now, and are still reading, than, congratulations. You're a lot more mature than I thought, but still not nearly as grown up as you think. For credentials, or whatever, so you know who's advice your taking, I'm a 22 year old male, no kids, but, I treat my cousins kid like my own. N I've been through a lot of shit in the last 11 years, n it truly was all shit. It's been pretty much all bad. My life is such a mess.
Their disapproval comes from a place of concern. You're a minor “dating” an adult. Large age gaps while dating as adults is brushed aside because as adults there's not much difference in levels of maturity. However, a large age gap while you're still under age is extremely concerning because of the difference in maturity.
Considere também com ele sendo 8-9 anos mais velho que você, você ficaria bem namorando uma criança de 9 anos?